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1. Life, mind and body

A flag was blowing in the wind nearby and one monk said, "The flag is moving." The other monk disagreed: "No, the wind is moving." The sixth patriarch told them, "Not the wind, not the flag. Mind is moving"

Usually a person relates to another under the tacit assumption that the other shares his view of reality, that indeed there is only one reality. Watzlawick

Mind is the instrument for preserving a sense of constancy against all evidence to the contrary.

Change is occurring all the time around us. The paint on the wall is fading imperceptibly as the pigments age and turning brown with human skin flakes adhering to it. The glass on the windows is thinning at the top and ballooning at the bottom. Parts of your body are aging faster than other parts. And yet mind keeps up the illusion of constancy.

These changes are called imperceptible but it depends on your settings in the instrument of mind.

Mind will protect us from radical challenges to our illusions by putting us into culture shock when other people's illusions confront our own. Culture shock gives us time out of mind. We may of course believe our version of reality is the only one.

Mind arises in the body's organ of grasping, of concretizing - the brain. That organ has a mind of its own and with that we struggle.

Body-mind is our life support system - it nurtures, soothes and blesses us, one and all. Nothing wrong with a blessing or two but do we have to grasp it so tight that what is blessed perishes in our grip? Our last freedom is to choose the attitude with which we face any circumstance. Is it hanging on and letting go.

Mind is like cosmic putty. Experience forms impressions in mind, which are reflected in how we perceive and respond individually and collectively. The greater the intensity or duration of an experience and the earlier it occurs in mind's development, the wider the impression and the more influential on our current state of mind, on how we react to the little things.

That reactivity is both wisdom and intimacy inhibiting. It is hard to talk to someone or learn who they are when they react to someone who is raising a legitimate concern.

Unquiet mind can become like an unruly travel companion, a back seat driver or a house mate that wants everything done exactly its way. When we put monkey mind in the driver's seat of our life we will have hell to pay.

2. Conditioning

'Conditioning is not a logical process, it works only by association." Isaac Asimov in 'The Human Brain'

We all have a public world, a private world and a secret world - secret even to ourselves at times. We have at least two reasons for doing/feeling anything of importance - a good reason and a real reason. But there are also sub conscious processes that are reasonable but not yet reasoned, which are not available to us sometimes until years after the events. Nevertheless they influence our understanding and actions ongoingly.

'Last time, I think,
I'll brush the flies
from my father's face.'

Kobayashi Issa

With so many sources of influence on life, mind and body where does one's being reside - inside and outside? Both immanent and transcendent? What is the enduring truth of us behind the mask of socially conditioned experience?

Consciousness itself is probably at the quantum level of the brain, an irreducible experience that exhibits non-local effects. It is probably everywhere in the brain and body and yet nowhere.

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